PQ and Your Relationships
How Quieting Your Inner Voices Changes the People Around You Here’s something that surprises almost everyone who goes through the PQ program: they came in thinking it was about them — their anxiety, their performance, their inner voices. And it is. But somewhere around week three or four of the program, they start noticing something […]
Right Answer, Wrong Question
Written by: Pastor Bethany Walker I’m not sure where I first heard two things that recently came together in my mind: If you get the right answer to the wrong question you still have the wrong answer. The question isn’t what do our church members want but rather what do our neighbors need? I heard […]
Conflict Without Casualties
Leading Through Church Conflict with Clarity and Grace Church conflict is one of the most painful — and most common — experiences in pastoral ministry. It’s also one of the most avoided. We tell ourselves that if we just love people enough, or pray hard enough, or give it enough time, it will resolve on […]
Meet Your Sage :The Wisest Part of You Has Been There All Along
Over the past several months, we’ve been spending a lot of time with the Saboteurs — the Judge, the Pleaser, the Avoider, the Stickler, the Hyper-Achiever. If you’ve been following along, you may have recognized yourself in some of these voices and thought, “Well, that’s a little uncomfortable.” Good. That awareness is exactly where transformation […]
Homebound
By Pastor Bethany Walker: A long time ago I stopped using the language of shut-in for those parishioners I visit in their homes because their circumstances keep them from being able to regularly attend worship. I started using the language of homebound because it sounded gentler and less confining. This is not new language. Many […]
When Ministry Gets Toxic: Finding Your Way Through a Hard Call
Nobody goes into ministry expecting it to be so hard. You answered a call. You showed up with love, preparation, and a genuine desire to serve. And then — somewhere along the way — something shifted. The joy got heavier. The people got harder. And you started wondering if something was wrong with you. […]
“Physician, Heal Thyself” (Refreshed)
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” — Anonymous Thank you, “Anonymous” — because you have put words to exactly what I am doing and feeling. As a clergy life coach, I have the privilege of working with inspired, passionate leaders of faith who want […]
So, What Exactly IS a Life Coach? And How Is It Different From Everything Else You’re Already Doing
If you’ve ever thought about working with a life coach but hesitated because you weren’t sure how it’s different from seeing a therapist, meeting with a spiritual director, or grabbing coffee with a mentor — you’re not alone. I get this question often, and it’s a great one. The truth is, all of these relationships […]
2nd Chance God
I recently led the Bible Study portion of our Community VBS. Now in its 6th year, this ecumenical effort crosses denominational lines for the purpose of providing a fun week for community kids centered around our shared love of Jesus Christ. One day the kids and I explored the story of Jonah and the Ninevites. […]
The Stickler and the Hyper-Achiever: When Excellence Becomes a Burden You Were Never Meant to Carry
When Excellence Becomes a Burden You Were Never Meant to Carry You know that feeling when you finish a sermon and, before you’ve even shaken the last hand at the door, you’re already cataloguing everything that could have been better? The illustration that didn’t quite land. The point you rushed. The transition that felt clunky. […]
